At Williamsville Wellness the clinical team has a tradition after we have treated problem gamblers. On the final day of a resident’s treatment we conduct a farewell ‘ceremony’ in which all peers and staff share their final thoughts with the discharging resident; words of encouragement, advice, caution, and appreciation. At the end of the ceremony the following poem is read to the resident:
The Final Analysis
“People are often unreasonable, illogical, and self-centered;
Forgive them anyway.
If you are kind, people may accuse you of selfish, ulterior motives;
Be kind anyway.
If you are successful, you will win some false friends and some true enemies;
If you are honest and frank, people may cheat you;
But be honest and frank anyway.
What you spend years building, someone may destroy overnight;
But build anyway.
If you find serenity and happiness, they may be jealous;
But be happy anyway.
The good you do today, people will often forget tomorrow;
So do good anyway.
Give the world the best you have, and it may never be enough;
Give the world the best you’ve got anyway.
You see, in the final analysis, it is all between you and God;
It was never between you and them anyway.”
— by Mother Teresa.
Recently, a very thoughtful resident decided to create a variant version of the Final Analysis to express their gratitude and appreciation for the staff and program, here it is:
“Although we arrive here by using Google maps,
Keep giving us direction anyway.
We approach the house as drunks, drug users, gamblers, and addicts.
Always keep the door open for us anyway.
Once inside we might seem alone, scared, and confused.
Keep welcoming us anyway.
Even though you may have heard our stories before,
Keep listening anyway…
Sometimes it might seem like we just don’t listen,
Keep speaking anyway…
At times may think that we are dysfunctional, broken, and what seems like unrepairable.
Keep trying to fix us anyway.
Although we seem unwilling to learn,
Keep teaching anyway.
We may be different ages, religions, sexes, and races.
View us as your family anyway.
Even though we’re here as patients,
Keep teaching us the art patience anyway.
We know your days are long and sometimes might seem like marathon,
Keep crossing the finish line with a smile each day anyway.
You see, the analysis of Williamsville shouldn’t be determined solely on success rates, percentages,relapses, and the number of our good days. Just know you’ve showed each of us that there is a way to find the beauty in our breakdowns anyway.”
Problem Gamblers and A Recent Patient’s Inspiration. This is Why Our Work is So Rewarding!
As a professional counselor, people sometimes ask me “what caused you to get into this kind of work anyway?” My answer is always… “There have been many times in my life that I was full of hurt, confusion, feeling hopeless and lost due to nearly destroying my life with bad choices. So, I did not know which way to turn. But, in the midst of this, some truly kind, good and compassionate people reached out to me and helped me turn the tide and get on a good path. I will never forget those people, ever.”
Having been on the receiving end of such help made me extremely appreciative for it. I would venture to say that most individuals who go into the helping professions truly want to make a difference. So, it is very rewarding to have a client express gratitude in such a thoughtful way. There are other countless problem gamblers along the way who have inspired me and is this was certainly one of them. Our reward is great…
by David Rogers